It’s been a little bit since I have posted a new article here. So today I wanted to talk about how important it is to follow through with what you say to your partner.
This can be as simple as saying that you are going to be home for dinner to that you are going to complete a project at home that you have. For some reason if you can’t make it, or you can’t do it then have the respect for your partner to pick up the phone and call them. I guarantee you that you are less likely to have an argument when you do finally get home if they know before hand that you aren’t going to make it.
Let’s start with something as simple as being home for dinner. We all know that things happen, and sometimes they happen at the last moment. Unfortunately your partner isn’t there, doesn’t know what is going on and is sitting at home waiting for you… and waiting. We can even go as far as to say that your partner waits long enough and picks up the phone and calls you to see if everything is okay, if you are coming. If your response is that you just finished and two hours after that conversation you are still not home and haven’t called DON’T expect to come home to a partner that is waiting at the door to kiss you and welcome you home.
It doesn’t take much for you to pick up the phone and call. To me, it is a matter of respect. It shows that you care about your partner. You told them you were going to do something, you aren’t going to be able to but you don’t want to leave them hanging and waiting.
This goes for men and women, I don’t care who you are. If you are in a relationship and you care about and love the other person, and you expect them to do what they say they are going to do then you should do the same.
I also want to caution you about repeatedly saying that you are going to do something and repeatedly having reasons as to why it isn’t going to happen. That is going to create a situation when what you say means nothing to your partner. It will weaken trust and the bond that you have with your partner.
It’s funny to me, not funny ha ha, funny ironic, that the first person we are most likely to take for granted is our partner. We just go through our relationships thinking that person is always going to be there. If you don’t take the time to take care of your relationship you may be surprised the day you come home and that relationship is gone. No one likes to be let down. No one likes to made to feel as though they are not important to the person they love. And while you may not think that simply not following through on what you say would give that impression… over time… when it happens more then once… that is exactly what you are telling your partner. It is the equivalent of saying, “I’ll get to you when I can.”
By the time you get to your partner… they just may not be there.
This is one of the main reasons for people to cheat. Don’t make the mistake in thinking that people stray for sex. The main reason that a married or committed person will stray is because their needs are not being met by the person they are with.
Think about that, if you are repeatedly letting your partner know that they don’t matter… or they aren’t important enough… doesn’t it make sense that they would find someone that will make them feel important? That they would spend time with a person that put them first? See it isn’t sexual, and it isn’t for love… they may love you more then anything… and that is why they stay, but their needs have to be met as well.
I have talked before that it is the little things in a relationship that mean so much. It is the little things that you do or don’t do for your partner that will make or break your relationship.
Take care of your relationship. Follow through with what you say to your partner. It could make all the difference between a long happy relationship and the end of what you thought was a great relationship.
